6 rules to follow when visiting a newborn

When you have a friend or family member who has just had a baby, you may be excited for that first visit. Sometimes we forget that our job is to be a supporter of the parents as they are learning how to transition into a new, challenging, and fun life with their newborn. Here are 6 things to keep in mind when visiting a newborn:



  1. Bring parents a meal and offer to help clean

    • It can be overwhelming caring for a newborn and often tiring. Between the constant feedings, diaper changes, naps, and cuddles, this leaves little time for mom and dad to meal prep and clean. A frozen meal can go a long way. Even doing a load of laundry or dishes can take a huge burden of a new parent’s shoulders

  2. Listen to her

    • Pregnancy, birth, and postpartum comes with a mountain range of hormone and emotional changes. Having a baby is one of the biggest events in someone’s life. Don’t forget to take time to listen to how mom is feeling. It’s easy for mom to feel like she’s living in her tiny newborn’s shadow. Everyone asks about the baby. Wants to see the baby. We need to remember that mom is important to. Asking something like “Is there anything you’d like to talk about today?” could be very helpful.

  3. Remind her she is awesome

    • New parents are figuring out how to take care of their little ones. Even if they have older children, this baby has a different personality and different needs. At times, a mother might feel like she isn’t doing a great job. You could be the friend to encourage her. Raising a baby takes a village. Of course, she will need help. Remind her that she is not alone and that she is rocking it!



  1. Offer advice unless asked

    • Just because you’re a parent or know a lot about babies, doesn’t make you an expert on their newborn. There are tons of different parenting styles, pieces of advice, myths, and facts about raising newborns. Chances are, mom and dad have already begun making those decisions and they probably don’t want your advice. If they do ask your advice, present it in a way that doesn’t shame the parent. Another thing to note, it is always more beneficial to listen to the mother. Sometimes she might just need to vent about the challenges of motherhood without you trying to “fix” it even if your intentions are good.

  2.   Over stay your welcome

    • You want to see the newborn. Everyone else does too. Before dropping by for a visit, make sure to call or text first to make sure it’s a good time. New parents want alone time with their babies as well, or they might not feel up to having company. Make your visits short and productive.

  1. Come sick

    • This is probably the most important rule. Babies do not have a strong immune system. Most are not old enough to receive common vaccines yet. It is crucial that even if you have a small cough or cold that you stay home. Not only could you harm the infant with a contagious illness, passing on a cold to the parent could make taking care of their newborn so much harder.


What are your favorite ways to help new parents?